“Is Something Wrong With Me?” Women seek help in sex therapy because they fear that there is something terribly wrong with their sexuality. They have lived so long under the shadow of the male model of woman as pleaser that very few of them have an independent view of their sexual selves. Ironically, women may think that they have too little or too much desire based on what their partners have told them, or what they have learned in their childhood and adolescence. Many women feel they have “lost” their desire for sex because they do not respond in ways that satisfy their partners. Some women feel that there is something wrong with them because they desire more sex than their partners and have been summarily rejected by men for this. Rarely does any woman think that her sexuality is exactly right.