Affect dictates our state. When states are rehearsed they become traits. States create self justifying narratives and we believe them. Worse yet, we actually think we are our traits. When neurofeedback addresses affect appropriately, it eases the grip of state. But neurofeedback also has the power to disregulate and promote negative states. This creates a hazard in training oneself. Given that states produce self-justifying narratives, how do we assess what we are doing? It is the conclusion of this presentation that any shift in state toward reactivity be considered compelling information that our training must change.