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“Our Dialogue”

6th Edition - Rev.

the Religious Editor

Arab News


apkar pk
Volume I
Gratuitous Distribution only
• Copies of the books in ‘Our Dialogue’ series are offered to those in Karachi who kindly visit us personally.

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apkar pk

[Muhammad Arif]

404 Qamar House

M. A. Jinnah Road

Karachi - 74000 Pakistan

Telephones: [92] [21] 231 24 95 [Work/Home]

Telecopier: [92] [21] 231 09 08

E-mail: dialogue@khi.comsats.net.pk

— apkar pk will try to meet their demand as far as may be practicable.
Hadith —


the creation of each one of you

is brought together in the mother's belly

for 40 days in the form of a drop of sperm,

then he is a germ-cell for a like period,

then an embryonic lump for a like period,

then there is sent to him the angel

who blows the breath of life into him

& who is commanded about four matters:

to write down his means of livelihood,

his life span, his actions

and whether happy or unhappy
By Allah,

other than whom there is no God,

one of you may behave like the people of paradise

until there is but an arm's length between him and it,

and that which has been written overtakes him

and so he behaves like the people of hell fire

and thus he enters it;

and one of you behaves like the people of hell fire

until there is but an arm's length between him and it,

and that which has been written overtakes him

and so he behaves like the people of paradise

and thus he enters it."
( Related by Al Bukhari & Muslim.)
apkar pk

This will serve to tell you a bit about apkar pk. Well, apkar is simply an abbreviation from Allied Promotors Karachi, the Company I organize, while the suffix pk stands for Pakistan.

A friend, Mr. Ateed Riaz has been involved in copying and gratuitously circulating pages from the religious columns of arab news, Jeddah. I was also favored with these pages. I found the columns very interesting indeed and deeply thought provoking. I decided to start compiling. After compiling about a hundred pages, in the year 1989, I showed the result to some of my friends. They were enthusiastic and I was pleased. We felt that it could serve as a useful and handy guide for those keen to know more about the ways of our religion but did not get convincing answers from the nearby Ulema. My friends offered to help with the printing. The first such book was a smaller version of “Our Dialogue”, under the title "a question and answer session, the Religious Editor, arab news, Jeddah", comprising 125 text pages. This was a beginning.

I was encouraged by the response. I continued with this compiling work and in time came up with the enhanced version of the same book under the title “Our Dialogue” which is the title of the columns which appear in arab news, Jeddah. The scope has been enlarged and improved since, under the titles "Our Dialogue," "Our Dialogue II," and their combined, common-indexed version also entitled "Our Dialogue", in December 1994, "Our Dialogue" PLUS and in June 1995, a reworked version of all previous issues was presented in two volumes called the Sixth Edition of “Our Dialogue”. In April 1996, an Urdu version, translated by Abdus Salam Salami, was also provided under the title of “Islami Tarze Fikr”. Later, in August 1997, a Volume III was added to “Our Dialogue” series. Now this book in your hands is Volume I of a set of three, revised, improved and consolidated version of all previous issues.

Much thought and effort has gone into the collection of works for the books in "Our Dialogue" series, which owes a debt of gratitude for the worthy advice, kind assistance, and useful support extended from time to time by Abdul Lateef Abbasi, Abdul Rehman Haji Habib, Abdus Salam Salami, Ahmed Arif, Alimuhammad Abdullah, Amin M Arif, Anwar Ahmed Meenai, Ateed Riaz, [late] *Badruddin Dharani, K M Yaqub, Khurram Ali Shafique, Mansoor Osman Kalia, Muhammad Amin, Muhammad Ayaz Ghaznavi, Munir Malik, Nasir Osman Kalia, Salman Ansari, Salahuddin Ahmed, Sarwat Jamal Asmaee, Sultan Ahmad Kalia, Tahir Shafique, Umeza Ansari, Zaheer Baber, Zaheer H Malik and Zahra Arif. Without their help, the "Our Dialogue" series could not have been achieved.
Muhammad Arif February 1998.
* Badruddin Dharani [or Badru, as we called him,] is no more with us. He died in 1996. May Allah in His mercy grant him eternal peace. He was one of the main motivating forces behind the publication of books in “Our Dialogue” series. I request our readers to kindly say a prayer for his soul. Jazak Allah.

Answers to questions in

“Our Dialogue”

are provided by more than one scholar

and edited by

Adil Salahi

arab news Jeddah, K.S.A.

There is a main rule in Islamic Law

that a particular regulation

which is made for a particular reason

is enforced only when that reason

is clearly in evidence
Our Dialogue

Sixth Edition - Rev. • — Volume I

in alphabetical order
Abdul Latif Abbasi

Abdul Rahman Haji Habib

Ahmed Arif

Alimuhammad Abdullah

Amin Muhammad Arif

Anwar Ahmed Meenai

Ateed Riaz

K M Yaqub

Khurram Ali Shafique

Mansoor Osman Kalia

Muhammad Amin

Munir Malik

Nasir Osman Kalia

Salahuddin Ahmed

Salman Ansari

Sultan Ahmad Kalia

Tahir Shafique

Uneza Akhter

Zaheer Babar

Zaheer H Malik

Zahra Arif

Contents of the books in

Our Dialogue”series

are also accessible on the Internet.

Visit the website


“Our Dialogue” — advice & consent

• Publishing 'Dialogue' answers in book form

Has “Our Dialogue” been published in book form?

I have mentioned that such publication requires an extensive editing work if it is to be done properly. What I mean is that questions should be sorted out according to subject and related ones should be consolidated in a more comprehensive way. This will mean some expansion of certain answers so that they treat the subject rather than the specific case the reader puts. It will also mean grouping together various answers so that the treatment of the subject is more complete. I pray God to enable me to undertake this task at some point in the future.

Meanwhile, I do not permit any publication which is intended to generate financial profit, without my prior agreement. Those who had produced compilations seeking no profit, but aiming only to make such answers known to people who may need them, are generous with their effort. May God bless them and reward them. I hope that God will also grant me a share of that reward.

“Our Dialogue” was compiled and printed by some people at their own initiative. I have not had any role in that. They state that copies may be obtained from apkar pk (Muhammad Arif), 404 Qamar House, M. A. Jinnah Road, Karachi - 74000 [Telephone Work/Home 92 21 231 2495].

Knowing that majority of questions have been put to me by readers from the countries of the subcontinent, I realize that if “Our Dialogue” is made available in Urdu, it would serve a good purpose. Therefore, I have no objection, in principle, to its translation into Urdu. [One such compilation in the form of a book called Islami Tarze Fikr is also being offered by apkar pk.]

[Arab News • Saudi Arabia's English Language Daily]
“Our Dialogue” — Sixth Edition Rev. —1998


Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani 1


Concept behind it 3

Contact with the opposite sex 3

In bathrooms 5

Invalidation — Certain misgivings 6

Invalidation caused by illness or obsession? 6

Nail polish — use of 7

Physical contact with wife 8

Purification — women's 8

Shower instead of ablution 9

Touching private parts 10

Undressing after ablution 10

Use of oil on skin 10

Wiping of socks 10

Abortion on medical grounds 11

Actions and intentions 14

Actions on behalf of dead persons 15

Addressing prayers to the Prophet 18


A mistake to be undone — how? 20

Gift by will 20

Inheritance 22

Prohibited in Islam 22

Voluntary-care and guardianship 24


God's forgiveness and marriage; 25

Punishment and marriage 26


Attitude toward 27

Advice to parents, elders 27

Airlines and women's charms 28

Al-Fatihah in congregation 32


In soft drinks 28

Misconceptions about the curative power of alcohol 29

Physical use of 31

Allah's 99 names 32

Allah's entity and human perception 33

Allah's existence 34

Allah's name, its origin, and equivalent in other languages; 37

Allah's will

Iraqi invasion of Kuwait 41

Allah's will and His foreknowledge 39

Allah's will and man's choice 41

Allah's will and man's doing 43

Angels recording our deeds and the need for such a record 43

Anger 45

Animal for sacrifice, accidental death 45


Observing death anniversaries 46

Appearances & true piety 48


Is it obligatory? 49

It's necessity and the time limit 50

the purpose of 50


Is it a divine language? 51


Change of wordings 52

For the newborn 52

Laws prohibiting use of loudspeakers 52

Without ablution 53


A status or a title 53

Miraculous powers 55

Ayat-ul-Kursi 56


Ba'it or pledge of loyalty to spiritual leaders 62

Babri Mosque and killing by Muslims 64

Backbiting or honest testimony 66

Bank employees

Misgivings about working in a bank 67

Prayers at the Bank's premises 69

Banking; An overview of the system 70


PLS Bank Accounts in Pakistan 75

Bath with pants on 75

Becoming a Muslim

How to become a Muslim 75

Begging in an Islamic community 81

Behavior — unbecoming 83


What makes one a believer? 84

Who is a true believer? 84

Believers & non-believers

Drawing clear distinction between 86

Big Bang

Origin of the universe — the right approach 90


the use of 91


the purpose of our birth 97

Birth control

As national policy 92

Coitus interruptus 93

Contraception & sterilization 93

Birth Control

Through sterilization 94

Birth, life and death — feeling of helplessness 95

Birthday of the Prophet (peace be upon him)

Celebration of 98

Significance of 99

Biscuits with surah for improving memory 100

Bowing when we greet 101

Boy meets (or goes out with) a girl 101

Bribery viz.-a-viz. coercion 102

Bridge to hell 103


Their obligations to sisters 103

Bullet-proof soldiers 105


Delayed burial 107

Buying good deeds done by others 108



Forbidden to eat — but ... 110


Anniversaries and the like 110

Ceremonial impurity, the state of — [or janabah] 111

Change came about — but how? 112

Charity via a will 119

Charms and the black magic 119

Charms and the spread of Islam 120

Charms used to cast spell or to neutralize 122

Charms with verses from the Qur'an 124


Accountability and the misjudgment of parents? 126

Caring for the financial needs of kids of a widow 127

Growing up where Islam does not exist 127

Parents’ approach toward teaching Islamic faith 128

Parents’ misdeeds and the children’s suffering 129

Parents’ responsibility for children’s deeds 130

Restricting the number of children 130

Rights of an illegitimate child 131


Saving for the future of a child 132


Muslims insulting their religious book, the bible 133

Muslims partaking in the celebration of Christmas 133

Muslims putting across Islamic view to preachers 134


Is it obligatory? 141

Classes within a Muslim community 142

Classification of mankind 143

Clothing for men 144


Islamic view on 144

Seminars on reproduction & mixed participation 145

Commemorating the great in the Islamic manner 145

Compulsion in religion and the standard alternatives 147


A duty on the Muslim Community 148

At home or office 150

Friday sermon & the voluntary prayers 150

Friday sermon in Arabic 151

Joining it from the neighboring house 152

Joining late 152

Offering a missed prayer — the proper approach 153

When imam missed ablution 153

Who should lead the prayer? 153

Women leading 154

Copyrights and wrongs 155

Corrupt setup

Following bad example in bribery & corruption 156

Observing Islamic practices in such a setup 157

Cosmetic surgery

Is it permissible? 160

Counting glorification 160


Significance of the crescent 162

Curse of precious stones 162



Is it permissible? 164

Darwin's theory of evolution 164

Day of judgment

Signs, indications 165

Day of Judgment

Uniting of married couples 166


When does a day start according to Islamic traditions? 166

Daydreaming about committing offenses 167


A grieving daughter's suffering 167

Body and the spirit 168

Burial time limit 169

Condolence for the deceased 169

Dispute about the faith of a dead woman 170

Forgiveness by coincidence 171

From here to eternity 172

From hunger 174

In infancy 176

Life after death 177

Misguidance by Satan in the grave 178

Mourning 179

Predetermined by Allah - the proper sense 179

Questioning the cremated after death 180

Questions on death and burial 180

Recitation for a deceased 182

Speedy funeral and burial 183

Time of death 183

Torment in the grave — without accountability? 184

Various traditions that follow 185

Washing the dead — reasons for 186

Washing the dead spouse 186


Janazah prayer for a deceased child 177


Comments on a bad debt 186

Compensation for late payment 187

Incurred to help parents perform pilgrimage 188

Decorative figurines 188

Delivery by a male Doctor 188


Islamic way to overcome it 189


Powers of the devil 189

Directives and rituals 190

Disowning one's child 190


A review on Islamic limits and regulations 191

Beget children or else ... 196

Conditional 198

Conflicting rulings 199

Custody of children 202

Ill-treatment as the basis for divorce 205

In anger 206

Inducing a woman to get divorced to marry again 207

Laws changed in India 208

Laws clashing with Qur’an & Sunnah 210

Nullification of marriage — with or without benefits 214

Offered for neglect of prayers 216

Question raised on equality of men & women 216

Regretted before actual transmittal of advice 218

Remarriage after divorce — a comprehensive view 220

Rights of children 223

Shortly after marriage 224

When a three-time divorce is binding 225

When the US Laws are contrary to Islamic laws 228

Whimsical divorce 229

Wife divorcing her husband and a precondition 230


The maintenance of divorced women 212


Using guard dogs 233

Donations for building mosques 234


Death of spouse 235

Deferred payment 236

Failure to pay dower 237

What dower to pay? 239

Dowry gifts to brides and their inheritance 239

Drinking what is leftover by another person 242


Best form of — 243

Standing up? 243

Dutiful child

Definition of an un-dutiful child 244

How dutiful can you be? 245

Dutifulness and disobedience 246

Dye for hair 247

Becoming a Muslim

Reluctance - the do’s & donot’s 78

Social security

Charity is not a favor done by the giver 114

• Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani

Would you please give us a short biography of Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani and his contribu­tion to Islam. In our country, people believe that he memorized the Qur'an when he was still a fetus. Is this true?

Much is said about Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani who is still revered by millions of Muslims throughout the world. However, much of what is being said about him is absolutely nonsense. As a scholar and dedicated worker of Islam, Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani would not approve of anything extraordinary being said about him. An example of which is that which has been provided by the questioner. That Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani had memorized the Qur'an while still a fetus is a claim that cannot stand to the short­est of serious examinations. Nevertheless, we know that Allah is powerful to accomplish any purpose. If he wanted Abdul Qadir to memorize the Qur'an before he was born, He would certainly have enabled him to do so. But Allah has a purpose and a wisdom behind any action He takes. What purpose would be served by giving Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani, or indeed any other human being, that accomplishment before birth? Besides, how can one prove such a claim? Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani himself did not make it. Then how can anyone say that this was the case? And then why would this be needed? Would Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani have been able to talk to other fetuses in their mothers' wombs and ex­plain to them the Qur'an? The fact is that such nonsense re­flects badly on anyone who repeats it, and indeed on the man himself. Many people who are aware of the true concepts of Islam adopt a very suspicious attitude to anyone around whom such myth is woven. No one does Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani any good service by claiming for him any of the miraculous acts that he is said to have accomplished. Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani was not a Prophet. If a miracle is worked out by Allah through him, he had no choice in it and he could not have determined its happening. Such miracles are worked by Allah when He chooses and for a purpose He determines.

Therefore, before we begin to read about Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani, we have to put out of our minds any notion about his being a human being of a superior type. To do justice to Sheikh Abdul Qadir, I have referred to the invaluable work of Sheikh Abu Al-Hassan Ali Al-Hassani Nadwi which is given the title of Saviors of Islamic Spirits. He devotes a chapter in the first volume to the life and work of Sheikh Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani. Here is a brief summary of what Sheikh Abu Al-Hassan has written.

Abdul Qadir was born in Jilan, which is also known as Vailam, in the North-West of Iran, south of the Caspian Sea. He was an Arab by descent, but belonged to Iran by migration of his ances­tors. In the year 488 A. H., when he was still 18, he went to Baghdad. Although inclined to penance and cultivation of reli­gious observances from an early age, Abdul Qadir addressed him­self whole-heartedly to the acquisition of education under the most reputed teachers of the time such as Ibn Aqeel, Al-Baqillani and At-Tabrizi, turned to mysticism and was guided in its tenets and practices by Sheikh Abu Al-Kheir Al-Dabas and Mubarak ibn Ali.

After completing his education of religious sciences, Abdul Qadir began his career as a teacher in the seminary of his teacher Mubarak ibn Ali Al-Makhrami. He soon acquired great fame and people flocked from all areas of Baghdad to listen to his sermons. Ibn Qudama, a famous Hanbali scholar, records that he had not seen a man more reverent for his piety and religious learning than Abdul Qadir. The king and his ministers attended his sermons along with the rank and file. Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani himself was always modest, humble and unpretentious. He often left his work to attend to the needs of a child, a destitute or a slave girl. Never evading the company of the poor, he even washed their clothes or performed similar personal services for them. He never stood up in the honor of any person of high rank. If he got information that the Caliph would be visiting him, he deliberately went inside his house so that he might not have to stand up to welcome him. He used to come out of the house after the Caliph had seated himself in the mosque. Abdul Qadir never paid back such a courtesy call.

Those who have seen Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani have paid a glowing tribute to his moral excellence and large-heartedness, modesty and hospitality, generosity and goodness of the heart. Held in such high esteem by the people, Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani showed great respect to his elders, met the youngsters with a good grace, was always the first to salute those whom he met, and hailed the poor courteously.

Two great scholars, each of whom came later to be known as Sheikh Al-Islam, Izzuddin ibn Abdul Salan and Ibn Taimiyah are of the view that Abdul Qadir's work was miraculous, but his miracle of miracles was filling the hearts of the despaired and the broken-hearted with faith, hope and enthusiasm. He infused a breath of new life, zeal and self-confidence into countless persons through his power of speech and the spiritual power of his heart. He was, in truth, a blessing for the world of Islam for he renovated and revived the true content of the faith and tapped the sources of moral spiritual strength for a religious renaissance.

Abdul Qadir Al-Jilani was a follower of the Hanbali school of thought and he endeavored to root out innovations and devia­tions from the orthodox faith and practices. Because of his forceful defense of the need to follow the Sunnah strictly, scholars of Hadith and their disciples came to be held in high esteem by the masses.

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