These may be useful legally later on. Create a new folder, called ‘Abuse’, and move hate mail and messages into this folder.
Accept that bullies don’t think like you do
Trying to sort it out with them or asking them to stop won’t work. Recognise that you are not dealing with a person who has the same mindset as yourself. Cyberbullies are cowards who often try to hide their identity and behave in nasty ways to build themselves up and to put other people down. Cyberbullying is a pathetic act.
Some cyberbullies ‘troll’ or play ‘the baiting game’. A provocative comment is made and those who respond in irritation are encouraged to engage in conflict with those who respond assertively. The provoker watches, waits and stirs the pot.
Become an observer. Although you may be the target of the bully’s anger, you can train yourself to act as an observer. This takes you out of the firing line and enables you to study the bully and collect evidence.
For parents: don’t ban—plan
Parents should not threaten to ban access to the Internet if bullying occurs.
The main reason young people do not tell their parents when they are cyberbullied is because they fear they will lose access to the computer.
Parents should let their children know that they will help them to cope with upsetting events online but won’t insist they stop using the computer.
Behavioural change is important to pay attention to. While it is tempting to take away the screens, this is not always such a great idea. It is better to ensure computers are in a shared space, and impose some limits, such as a turn off time. If parents are able to get interested in the games and use these in conversations you will be able to more clearly understand the appeal gaming has for their child. It is also good to help children maintain off screen interests and activities.
Some children retreat into an online world to deal with loneliness, distress and depression. Often these kids are very private and difficult to engage in conversations making it hard for parents to gauge how much to worry. It is important for parents to pay attention to other behavioural changes such as poor sleep, low energy, irritability beyond usual levels, and changes in appetite. Get help if needed.
Know that people take cyberbullying seriously and that you will be taken seriously
The Australian Government has committed $125 million to improving online relationships. If you are bullied online, let your school know and let the police know. There are legal avenues that can be taken to stop cyberbullying.
Develop a code of netiquette
Some ideas include:
Don’t bully or be mean to others on-line.
Let people know that cyberbullying is a weak and cowardly act of hatred online.
Don’t harass or stalk people online.
Don’t pass on embarrassing photos or posts about others.
Parents should not allow kids to have webcams in bedrooms. Skype should only be allowed if the computer is in a shared family room. Chat roulette should be discouraged.
Know that circulating some photos means that you risk being charged with child pornography.
Only add friends that you know and do not add ‘friends of friends’.
Adults will never know enough to completely protect young people when they are online. For this reason, some schools are setting up groups of students to mentor and assist younger students managing the online world.
These students, called for example ‘ambassadors’ or ‘cyber doctors’, develop the netiquette code or ‘