All of us experience conflict. Maybe it’s in the home with your brothers and sisters, or with your spouse, or with your parents. Maybe it’s at work. Maybe it’s with friends or neighbours. We all experience conflict. But our attitude in conflict should be different because of whom we serve. Jesus, our king, set the example for conflict resolution. He died. He died for the sake of those in the wrong. So when we are faced with conflict, our attitude should be that of Christ. We, too, should be humble, giving up our rights, for the sake of resolution.
Notice, though, that it is for the sake of resolution. I’m not saying just give in to conflict all the time. I’m not saying that you must always tell the other person, “You’re right, I’m wrong.” What I am saying is that our attitude should be to go to extreme lengths to restore the relationship. Jesus didn’t throw up his hands and say, “Oh those sinful people! But I’ll just give in and let them have their way.” Instead, Jesus did whatever it took to win back those who had been alienated from him.
So think about someone with whom you are in conflict. Think about someone with whom you’ve had even the least bit of relational friction. What would it look like for you to do whatever it took to win them back? When your body starts to object, “But they…!” or “But I don’t want…” that’s a good sign of where to begin.
To Do: Our to do this week is very difficult. I want you to think of a person with whom you’ve had conflict. This week, I want you to think about Jesus your king. Think about what he did to win back his rebellious subjects. Then I want you to think about winning back the person you’ve had conflict with. Pray that God will work in you to will and to act according to his good purpose when it comes to making up with this person. Then humble yourself to obedience in terms of what God asks you to do to be reconciled with this person.
Why? Because that is the example our king set for us. Out of his humility he was exalted. For his obedience he was raised to the highest of heights. His humility and obedience were for the glory of the Father. So follow his lead, be humble and obedient to bring glory to the Father and you, too, will be exalted. Amen.