Turn Your Challenges Into Gifts - Pay It Forward [These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. The information on this audiocast is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.] [Theme song playing] Robyn: Hello everyone and welcome to month twelve of the Self-Care Revolution, celebrate life and pay it forward is our theme. All the co-creators of the Self-Care Revolution thought long and hard about what the last month would be and we clearly knew that after moving through topics like thoughts and food is medicine and exercise is medicine, unleashing your brain power and power of gratitude and empowerment and all these good things, now it’s time to pay it forward.
My name is Robyn Benson and I’m a doctor of Oriental medicine. I am the Founder of Santa Fe Soul Health and Healing Center and I have to say the way I love to pay it forward everyday is to help people achieve optimal radiant and sustainable health through all the tools I have to share. I’m here with…
Kevin: Kevin Snow, the co-host of Self-Care Revolution and I’m so grateful to be part of this conversation today. I’m an intuitive counselor at Santa Fe Soul and what I share with the world is to help people create clarity in their lives. That is my gift.
Robyn:That’s beautiful. We are excited, having a few minutes on our own with our wonderful speaker today, Janet Mueller. Welcome.
Janet: Hi everyone, thank you for having me. I’m grateful to be here and excited to be with you today.
Robyn: We love that you’re here. I love the theme of today’s talk. I’m going to share a little of your background with our audience real quick and then I’ll turn it over to you.
Janet is the CEO of J Mueller Group LLC & Founder of Leadership in Excellence Academy. A messenger, business strategist, coach, transformation teacher, speaker, and a published author. Janet is hired for her expertise to speak around the world on transformation, leadership development and servant leadership. As seen on SNN6, ABC 7 My Sun Coast, and daytime NBC. Janet’s 20 years of leadership expertise, study of human psychology, and her talent and gift for coaching has helped her to inspire, teach, and transform lives worldwide.
In the corporate world she’s successfully led, coached and trained executives and sales teams in both the direct sales and healthcare industry with fortune 500 and 100 companies. Janet partners with organizations and individuals helping them to get the results they want and become who they aspire to be. She is heart driven, an authentic leader who inspires, teaches and gets results! Janet is grateful to God for giving her a passport to more time having survived a near death experience so she can continue to help and make a difference touching and transforming lives all around the world through her speaking, teaching, coaching, seminars and books.
I want to start with the book you’ve just written, your first book, that just came out a month ago.
Janet: Yes, just published with Morgan James Publishing. I’m very excited to have the book out and I think because the message is similar to yours, it’s about serving and helping and healing and giving hope to many people, specifically for those who have breast cancer. One in eight women are diagnosed with breast cancer in our lifetime and I believe this book is a gift of hope that can help them to rise up and move beyond adversity as have the women and myself in the book.
Robyn: What’s the title of the book?
Janet: It’s A Champions Guide to Thriving Beyond Breast Cancer.
Robyn: That’s beautiful.
Kevin:I love the title. What is your definition of Champion? What does that mean to you?
Janet: Great question. As a girl growing up I was a gymnast, something that I was passion about and for those listening, you probably have a sport or athletic of some type that you participated in growing up and I use the metaphor of the gymnast in the book. As we think about the adversity and challenges that we all have in each of our lives, using the metaphor of the gymnast to help us to power through. If you see the walking being the balance beam of how we move through life and how we use that as a metaphor to balance, to take tiny steps to get from one side to the other. I believe we’re all messengers and we’re here to help each other cross from one side to the other.
A champion and a champion mindset is really about being positive. The positive psychology and having endurance. It’s about realizing that we can choose to see all the adversity and challenges we have as gifts and blessings and then sharing those and paying those forward to help other people. Servant leadership is something I’m extremely passionate about and I believe that when we share the gifts we have we can help to heal spirits, heal hearts around the world.
Robyn: I love that. Can you talk to us about where the inspiration for this book came about?
Janet: I actually lost a best friend to breast cancer at 33 years young. She was a young mom with a son and she was diagnosed late stage, so within 12 months of being diagnosed she was gone. We lost her to breast cancer and I felt called to help and inspire other women around the world, I think, to bond through my own adversity in life that empathy and compassion to want to help inspire and give other women hope.
Her story, giving her a voice and helping her, if you will, to live on and be able to use that for good and to pay it forward. It took me into the local community and interviewing seven very courageous women and having them share their stories of how they’re surviving and thriving as a way to give other women hope. So I’m blessed and grateful for her friendship, because it inspired the book and the book will definitely help other women around the world.
Kevin: You mentioned about healing and its relevance to this champion mindset. Could you expand a little on that concept of how the champion mindset relates to healing?
Janet: Absolutely. I believe that we all have the opportunity to be mindful in how we view our circumstances and our adversity. One piece of that is mindfully being aware of how we think about our circumstances and we know, as I’m sure you’ve heard, that with neuroscience we can reprogram the neuropathways and start to be an observer of the thoughts that we have and what thoughts we choose to hold onto and let go of.
So from an empowering standpoint I believe that we can all choose mindfully what thoughts we want to hang onto, the positive and negative and that can be helpful in a positive trajectory in place, so that we can focus on being more positive. I think the second piece is critical and that is faith. I’m a big believer that it’s not just about positive thinking, but it’s about having that deeper trust and intuitive piece where you pay attention to what you feel, hear and see and your faith plays a huge part.
I think meditation is also a big piece. I just came away from Experts Industry Association and we heard all about the TM meditation that Chris Attwood shared with us and all the benefits associated with that for anxiety, reduction, stress reduction, help with lowering blood pressure and depression. So, I think meditation is such a huge piece also.
Robyn: Is that part of your day-to-day practice Janet?
Janet:Yes it is.
Robyn: That’s great. Can you clarify a little more about how a champion mindset has helped you in your life?
Janet: Absolutely. I can share some stories with you that I’m sure many of your listeners can relate to as well. I actually experienced a near death experience over 15 years ago, where I was physically attacked, literally on death’s door and I remember in that moment praying ‘Dear God, please don’t let me die.’ I believed that in that moment it was going to be lights out and that I was not going to be here. I choose to see that experience, even though it was traumatic, it also is now a blessing because I see from that that I’m able to serve, to help, to heal and show others empathy and compassion to help them heal through the adversity.
That is a mindful decision that I choose to see that as, as something positive rather than something negative. So I think having that champion mindset has helped me. Again, I go to faith, meditation, the positive psychology and it’s really about perspective on how we view our circumstances. We talked about gratitude and having daily gratitude is such a huge piece. A lot of people believe that we have to be happy first to then be grateful but in actuality it’s the other way around. The practice of being grateful produces more happiness. I think having that gratitude in our lives every single day, finding something to look for to be grateful for is also huge.
Robyn: Janet, can you spotlight some of the women that are in your book and their stories?
Janet: Yes. One of the ladies in the book is Norma. She was diagnosed at stage 4 breast cancer and in a year she not only had been diagnosed but her husband had passed away. She’d been let go from her job. She lost both her mother and father and found herself literally without insurance. I share her story because I look at that and think my goodness, if someone can have that strength, faith, courage and belief that they can move beyond this and rise up, if someone can go through all that in 12 months, that is a shining example that demonstrates that it is possible for more people to heal and rise up.
Robyn: I love that.
Kevin: How has this impacted your clients?
Janet: Getting a positive result is essential. We’re hired to get results for people. I know for my clients, I’ve actually helped students that have seen me go through the process of writing the book, going into the community, serving that level and I’ve actually been able to help two other clients produce books and get their stories and message out in a very short amount of time. So I love this interview about celebrating life and paying it forward, because to me that’s what we’re here for. We’re here to serve one another and to help each other get those results so we can help more people. I’m excited. I’ve been blessed and able to help a couple people write their own books and share their messages as well, in a short space of time.
Robyn: I know that’s part of the word celebration to, where the pay it forward energy comes so powerfully from a place of celebration, of having made it through a major journey as you said earlier, a challenge. How important do you think this courage, creativity and passion are towards happiness?
Janet: I believe that creativity, you know you hear the expression that anxiety is the handmaiden of creativity. I do believe that creativity turned inward can lead to anger and depression. We see one in five women diagnosed with depression and it gets me curious into how are we moving away, especially with the children in schools and as women, by not speaking out, not standing up and sharing our voice and our message. How is that impacting our overall health? I’ll go to gratitude here because I actually give lots of gratitude to someone I consider a great mentor, Brendon Burchard, who has helped me rise up, speak out and share my voice as a way to serve and help others.
I do believe that coming out of the corporate world, we are educated away from sharing our ideas and being creative, and not really being allowed to be out of the box, think out of the box and be innovative. I think we have a long way to go in helping people being more creative and encouraging that from a health point of view and certainly in the schools with young girls. I think the more creative we are we can probably tackle some of the diagnoses for depression that I’m curious if they are actually real diagnoses.
We talk a lot about going back to who we were as kids and what it is we love to do. I remember creating math textbooks in my dads garage as a young kid and loving that, loving teaching and creating. I think we, as adults, get educated out of being creative at work, in the schools and we have a real responsibility to help one another get back to being more creative. I think we’re all creative. I don’t believe it’s an elite genius, I think we all have creativity we just need to find it.
Kevin: That’s such an important connection, sharing your creativity or moving it out into the world in its relationship to your internal health.
Robyn:Creativity is part of the solution. I love that message. Janet, a lot of people are experiencing adversity in some shape or another. It seems like this year has been a wowza year. What do you say to someone who’s experiencing pain, suffering, adversity or other challenges in life?
Janet: I rolled my sleeves up and I’m doing the same. I’ll hopefully lead from example and walk the talk here. Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra have a great 21-day challenge, and you’re invited to find ways that you think you are grateful for. One thing I would encourage someone to do if they’re going through a tough time and we know the holidays with Thanksgiving and Christmas can be very difficult for many people for a variety of reasons, be it financial or loneliness or depression.
I would invite and encourage them to notice the things that they can be grateful for.
Are they in good health?
Do they value relaxation time?
Can they find something, some way to become passionate towards themselves?
Things like noticing the sunset, getting out and about in their different routines, going to a different restaurant or out to watch a play, finding ways and simple ways they can be truly grateful for and doing that on a daily basis, perhaps writing five different things they’re grateful for each day and then doing that. I believe Stephen Covey talked about 21 days to change a habit, so 21 days is a great timeframe to have that.
Robyn: This is a perfect reminder to everyone listening that Janet is our very first speaker of our pay it forward month and we’re just so grateful to start with your relevant and wonderful message. I just want to remind you that part of the Self-Care Revolution journey that many of you have been on is entering the information into your journal. One of the things we ask everyone to consider is writing down 31 things that you can do to pay it forward. What ways do you want to wake up in the morning and have this pay it forward gratitude ritual? You reminded me of that Janet, as you were speaking, that this call to action is something we’ve brought into the Self-Care Revolution each and every month, so that journal is available in the members area for all of you.
Janet: That’s wonderful.
Kevin: Also, because we are in our pay it forward month, perhaps you could share some of your stories about paying it forward. In your book you mentioned having a springboard spirit.
Janet: That goes back to the gymnastic metaphor. The springboard spirit is really about the whole mind/body connection and I really believe that towards healing we need to integrate all those in addition to the positive mindset, the gratefulness and being conscious and mindful of the thoughts. The springboard spirit I use as a metaphor in the book and give the visual of, imagine tackling your adversity or challenge and running up to the springboard and taking the leap up and over whatever challenge you’re facing.
The gymnast lands on the other side of the springboard and just note that whatever you’re going through and experiencing, you have the opportunity to use that once you’re beyond it, to share that and springboard and pay that forward as a gift for someone else.
Robyn: I remember when I was reviewing your book you talk about the four pillars. Can you share with the listeners what those are, in terms of the springboard spirit?
Robyn: How about sharing a little more about soul?
Janet: I’m glad you asked that. I’m not someone who actually grew up around the church and what I had in writing this book was a very spiritual experience, to the point of not really fully understanding what was happening. What I found as I was writing, was I was actually guided and started to pay attention internally in listening to the guidance that I had. So as you read the book you’ll see that it’s extremely spiritual and it hadn’t started out as a spiritual book. I would say it was more of an uplifting positive and inspirational guide, which has turned into a spiritual faith-based book.
With that I would suggest that any of your listeners be open to developing your intuition and be open and obedient to any guidance, whether you get that through prayer or meditation. It’s a beautiful experience if you trust it and go with it. I really believe that part of the springboard spirit is integrating the mind, body, soul and having faith.
Robyn: That’s beautiful.
Kevin: You’ve mentioned many times mindfulness. What is your definition of mindfulness or how do you think people can implement or practice mindfulness in their daily lives?
Janet: If you were to lay back and get into a quiet space, maybe you were laying on your bed and for a lot of people you might experience lots of chatter and you find it difficult to relax and be calm. What I would invite you to do as you close your eyes to relax is to simply notice the different thoughts you’re having and instead of holding onto a particular thought. Whether it’s irrespective, positive or negative, just imagine yourself as an observer noticing the thoughts you’re having but letting them move by on a cloud, just passing you by and literally not being attached to holding on to any particular thought.
Then, in time, choosing which ones you do want to attach and hold onto. I believe many people aren’t aware that they can use that part of the brain to really reprogram and have that empowerment, that control, to be able to pay attention and choose which thoughts they want to hang onto and disregard. I think much of that comes from each of our pasts that we’ve had, maybe the beliefs we’ve grown up with about who we think we are, according to someone else. It really puts you in a place of empowerment, rather than disempowerment. I think it’s important that people realize they have the power to do that and you can set your pattern and the way that you think in a different way.
Robyn: Maybe you can share a little with how exactly you’re working with your clients day-to-day and the whole idea of leadership since that’s so near and dear to you.
Janet: Absolutely. I actually provide leadership development coaching and personal transformation. I am full on board with servant leadership philosophy and rather actually I would say is a way of being. I am passionate that leaving the corporate world there is a lot of opportunity to improve the health of the environment that we find ourselves working in and it’s not until we remove ourselves from those environments that we can actually stand back and see how unhealthy some of the management or leadership that we’ve been privy to has been and how that’s costing companies money, it’s increasing insurance costs and people are missing days from work due to stress.
It’s affecting people’s health and well-being, so I actually coach people that are in transition that are looking to come out of the corporate world. I’m also going into organizations and teaching workshops on servant leadership as a different way of leading, which is all about leading from the heart, leading with compassion and empathy, leading out of humility and really with a sense that we’re all connected and that we are coming from a place of serving a grander purpose, a grander mission and not just ourselves.
The leadership development goes back to the heart and I believe that leadership is a heart matter. If we can transform managers, bosses, leaders, people coming out of the corporate world for healing… if we can transition and help them to transform we can cause that ripple effect and we can spread out and help, not just the corporate world, but indeed pay it forward and serve each other.
Robyn: I love that.
Kevin: Definitely the transition and transforming and letting that soak in.
Janet: I don’t know that it’s the most popular style of leadership. I will share with you that I felt as somewhat of a black sheep in the corporate world because I have always led with compassion and empathy, from the heart. I’ve always cared about people and been connected and helped people from the heart. I think we have a big challenge in the corporate structure to go in and do some amazing work to help transform. There are companies out there that are doing servant leadership and succeeding, like Southwest Airlines, Whole Foods. It’s an entirely different way of leading and serving and I’m all on board for that and helping my clients to be better leaders and transform personally.
Kevin: We really are moving away from the direction of competition and into a more cooperative way of running business. I think you are a leader in that and I really like the pyramid on your site, the seven seas of transformation. Those particular words, could you share those with everyone.
Janet: I’m actually not at my computer right now but one of the words is compassion. Having compassion for ourselves and for the people that we work and collaborate with, having that deeper understanding and empathy, recognizing that everybody is different. Everyone has unique talents and gifts and then change, which is huge. Realizing that we’re always moving, evolving and recreating and reinventing. Change is inevitable and it’s something for having a lasting change there are six or seven key steps to make that happen. We have to be willing and open to change.
As it pertains to the corporate world it’s not doing business as usual or as Sir Richard Branson would say, screw business as usual, it’s really about leading with compassion, leading from the heart, being open and willing to change and courage. Courage is a big piece of it. It’s taking risk. It’s being with uncertainty and not knowing what’s going to happen next, and finding a way to be with that. Where we are today in this world that is a huge piece, but there’s a lot of growth and opportunity that comes with risk taking and having more courage.
Kevin: One of the things you talk about is control and you share a little about what your feeling is about control?
Janet: Control is a perspective. I think people may want to feel like they’re in control 100% and I do feel that the reality is that we’re not in full control. There are lots of different factors that come into play. With any decision or situation the universe, faith, external situations, etc. we need to focus on what we can control more, things like our attitude, perspective, the controllable rather than those things we can’t control, obviously natural things like the weather, natural disasters and things as such. Control is more of an illusion.
Kevin: Speaking of our pay it forward month, you’ve got a wonderful pay it forward gift. When folks go to JoinTheSelfCareRevolution.com and login to Janet’s speaker page, you’ll find the beautiful cover of her book, A Champions Guide to Thriving Beyond Breast Cancer. You are offering our listeners today the seven strategies towards healing.
Kevin: Can you speak to what that is?
Janet: I created a healing video. One of the key things in the video as we mentioned earlier was about gratitude and how we can choose to focus on what we can be grateful for each day and if they pick up your journal, didn’t you talk about 31 things Robyn?
Janet: That would be a fabulous way for someone to get started. Instead of focusing on the immediate difficulty or challenge or adversity, try your best to think and notice what you can be grateful for. The climate, the great conversation you had, the person you made smile because of that conversation or the door you held open for someone that needed that. They will get the seven strategies towards healing when they order the book and they also included a free breast cancer resource guide, because I know during a diagnosis it can be stressful and challenging and difficult trying to run around finding all these tools and resources quickly when you need that information at your fingertips yesterday.
Hopefully that will be helpful and give value to either the person diagnosed or their caregiver and family member.
Robyn: That’s great and the best website for people to reach you would be what?
Janet: It’s JanetIMueller.com.
Robyn: Great. For everyone listening, for anyone who has any questions for us just write to email@example.com. I have a question for you Janet, something we ask of all our speakers. What does a self-care day look like for you, based on this rich background that you’ve had and how you’re showing up in life as a coach and leader? How do you take care of yourself to keep paying it forward and sharing your message?
Janet: That’s a great question and I’ll share with you that it has been a challenge in my life as a mom with an eight-year old daughter, so I won’t preach to the choir if you will, but I have learned to become better at taking care of me. I think for so many women in particular we go through our day wearing so many different hats and having so many different roles as nurturers, caregivers, lovers that we quite easily can spend so much of our time, as have I in the past, constantly giving and doing and being for others.
So I have come to realize and integrate into my daily routine with a healthy breakfast, a shake and a piece of fruit and I’ve started to incorporate getting on the treadmill for 35 minutes everyday as best I can. Then usually I’ll spend 60 to 90 minutes on personal growth, whether that’s meditating or reading to feed my mind, etc. So from the nutrition, exercise, meditation and development, and I’m big on that because if we can start each day and choose to focus on something positive, something simple as John Maxwell, for example, who has those minutes a day with Maxwell motivation videos he does, so for anyone who says I don’t have time to read or watch videos, that’s a quick fast resource that anyone can use to implement.
Then for those that are driving, they can listen to CDs or something motivational on the way to work. I think encompassing all aspects of self-care is critical.
Robyn: I love that.
Kevin: It’s such an inspiration too, because like we said you are a busy person and we can look to this as here’s a person that has a busy, multi-faceted life and is still incorporating these simple self-care tactics and techniques.
Robyn: You definitely have a springboard spirit, Janet.
Janet: Thank you. I appreciate that and I hope it serves your listeners and other people. Sometimes a metaphor, whenever faced with a challenge or adversity they can think about that and picture themselves in a meta view if you will, over the obstacle and not to dismiss it but to pay attention to it in order to work their way through it.
Kevin: You have seven daily affirmations that you share in your book. Could you share a few of those with us today?
Janet: Yes. Those you will find in the book on page 29. The springboard spirit seven daily affirmations are…
I am keeping my heart desire alive and I will not let my circumstances defeat me.
I am courageous and I will keep focused on my heart desires and not let breast cancer stand in my way.
I will get up every time if I should fail.
I feel like we have two choices when it comes to life we can either, fall down and forget it or we can check in our attitude and say it didn’t turn out the way I wanted, I gave it my best, what’s next?
Robyn: I love this approach when you think about cancer and it’s not like a war against message. You clearly have a wealth of information between these affirmations and pillars. Just using this metaphor of moving forward and knowing all the possibilities and choices that are out there that this is not necessarily a death sentence. I think it’s so important and such a gift that you’re giving to so many people.
Janet: I appreciate that Robyn and I thank you for sharing that. I don’t really take all the credit at all, because the women in the book clearly demonstrate and share with their story, all different stages of breast cancer and different women from grandmothers to single middle-aged ladies, the whole spectrum. So, while I’d like to take the credit I can’t. They all share their stories of courage and hope and collectively, whoever picks up the book whether they have breast cancer or a different kind of cancer and/or if perhaps they’re having a challenge or adversity in life, the book will also serve them from a positive mindset and a faith in the springboard spirit.
I feel blessed and grateful to have that out there as a resource for people.
Robyn: I remember you saying early on in our conversation that one out of eight women are being diagnosed with breast cancer. From my understanding it’s like one out of four, just being in the medical field. What is correct? I’m so alarmed, like I shared with you before we went live on this call today, one of the big inspirations for me to want to start to be a true revolutionary was the times I had three women in their 30s with breast cancer. That was such a defining moment I’ll never forget it. I was like how can this be. I’ve had a woman in her 20s with breast cancer, so I’m curious about that statistic.
The research that I came across while writing the book, taking a lot from the American Cancer Society, was that one in eight women in their lifetime and I believe that’s based on somebody living up to 70 years of age.
Kevin: It’s still an appalling figure when we’re thinking of eight people that we know.
Janet: Absolutely, and worldwide, I believe it’s somewhere close to 1.5 million. I’d love to dive more into the nutrition. We’ve talked about the mind/body and soul and faith, the whole therapy has me very curious with holistic healing. I’m sure that’s right up your alley as well with the nutrition part of cancer.
Robyn: Yes, and the women in your book, what was mostly their nutrition strategy?
Janet: It varied. No one was the same. A very varied approach to nutrition. One girl, Angela, was active. She said she ate fairly healthy for the most part, but then I’ve spoken to people that have survived cancer that have gone through Gertham therapy’s and they’ve reported healing through the whole organic plant-based juicing diet and the coffee enema’s, etc. I think we have a great conversation for another phone call at some point to dive into the whole nutrition part.
Robyn: Yes, we have covered nutrition in a big way in this revolution from brain health to nutrition and exercise to just devoting the very first month. It’s such a critical part of the self-care message. We have some of our experts that believe 80% of our health has to do with diet. I’m close to that number. I think it’s very important.
Janet: Absolutely. Who was it that said food be thy medicine?
Robyn: Hippocrates; Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.
We’re very excited that we’ll be interviewing Jeffrey Smith, one of our first speakers in 2014, who will be talking about genetically modified food and talk about a trailblazer. Information is power. Just to know how much of our food supply is genetically modified, so we’re excited to have that conversation.
Janet, when you think about where you’re going, what are your next steps? You mentioned possibly another book. What’s next for Janet Mueller and your big message?
Janet: The big message that I need support with is that I want to get out with the people and create a movement with servant leadership. I see that as a huge healing of hearts and spirits and people of all walks of life, from the corporate world to entrepreneurs. We’re all leading in some way, as parents, women, practitioners, we’re all leading in some way and we all have those hurts, challenges, wounds and healing from the past to journey through. I truly believe it’s a huge calling and message as is yours.
I think together we can probably support each other quite well in getting out there and creating these kinds of movements. There’s a lot of healing and hurt and love that’s needed in the world. I think servant leadership is the next big piece and hopefully I’ve demonstrated just a piece of servant leadership with the way that I did the book. I hope that’s the message.
Kevin: It definitely resonated with us. Is there a common message that you found in the stories that are shared in your book?
Janet: Great question. One interesting response that I had from many of the women is that having to go through cancer again they would not opt for chemotherapy. That’s one common thread that I found. Second, they all had a positive mindset. For the most part their attitudes and outlook on life was mostly positive. Third, is faith. Each of them is a woman of faith.
Kevin: You’ve said that particular word, Faith, several times in our call. Can you expand upon it and what it means in your life and what you think it really means in the healing process?
Janet: That’s a huge question. As a kid I’d always grown up believing in God. I would pray to God. I was not the person that was ever taken to church growing up, but I always prayed and believed. I always knew and felt it in my heart. I think through writing the book there was a healing that happened for me. I think the healing was the missing piece of the Holy Spirit and having been touched by that the way the book unfolded, the women I was led to, the different stages each woman was diagnosed with, I couldn’t have planned that as perfect as it turned out.
I think truth be told, my first intent to write a book was going to be all about leadership and that was not the path I was guided down. I think listening and being obedient and trusting what we hear and get and as we connect the dots backwards we can see how it unfolded and perhaps how sometimes it’s not our position it’s really about listening to what we’re supposed to be doing, what we’re called to do and following that. I believe that healing happened not only for me without realizing it, but it also happened in videoing the women and having them share their stories on video.
I believe without realizing that they were actually getting healing through not only sharing their stories with me in a journalistic way but they were healing through sharing their message on video as well.
Robyn: That’s the pay it forward message is energetic transfer without even knowing the power of sharing and how that impacts so many other people’s lives, yours and all the readers of the book and those who view the video. That’s fantastic.
As we come to the end of our conversation with you. I think we’ve covered so much. I love the work you’re doing. You can feel how tangible your passion for what you’re doing is. One final comment based on all this experience and research that you’d like to share with us, regarding getting into the psyche of these women as your wrote the book and practiced leadership and coaching.
Janet: I would say that we need to pay attention all of us, women in particular, to any feelings of bitterness or resentment or any areas in our lives when we may feel we still have some forgiveness to explore and let go of or free ourselves. I think forgiveness is a huge part to healing and I believe when we forgive we are free. I would invite listeners to consider and explore that, to give themselves permission to follow that and find any area or someone whom you feel you may need to forgive. Look at areas where you have existing anger or resentment because I feel that plays a big part towards disease.
I encourage folks to journal and to be grateful for what you can in your life each day. Get Robyn’s journal and create those 31 journal entries as well.
Robyn: Love it. Thank you so much for being with us today. For all our listeners we have another wonderful speaker coming soon, Rev. Adara who will follow soon. Thank you for your time and sharing your great story, wisdom and your gift.
Janet: Thank you you’re welcome. I appreciate the opportunity. Thanks very much.