By: Abby Derstine
Abigail Adams: Daughter, Wife, and Mother
Abigail Adams: Daughter, Wife, and Mother
Of all the many amazing people in history, I find Abigail Adams to be the most intriguing and the best role model for all young women in our world today. Reading about her was enough to bring a tear to my eye, because her heart was filled with love for her mother and father, husband, and five children. Seeing someone be such a good daughter, wife, and mother, really inspires me to do my best in being a great daughter and older sister. Since I was so deeply touched by Abigail, I thought I’d share her life story with you! Here it goes.
On the miraculous day of November 11, 1744, Abigail Adam’s story began in Weymouth, a small town in Massachusetts. Of course back then, her name was not Abigail Adams, it was Abigail Smith. To Reverend William and Elizabeth Quincy Smith, she was their second child. Soon, though, they’d have two more children giving Abigail three siblings in all.
As she grew older and older, Abby developed a very solid personality, and she became very quick-witted, extremely direct, and a person who quite often, maybe too often, spoke her mind. Well, at least that’s what John Adams thought when he first met her. Not very attracted he was to her, and to be quite frank, she wasn’t really fond of John herself. Anyway, she thought, he’s nine years older than me, so what’s the point in having feelings for him? Then time went on- tick, tock, tick, tock- and Abby soon felt a slight attraction to him. Something about him just struck her, and she began to notice that despite the hard feeling for each other in the beginning, they were very similar. John, in turn, had a little bit of love in his heart for Abby! The things about her that reversed his feelings were her enthusiasm and pleasant mind. Finally, the ice was broken, and they began to share their love with each other. Not long after they started dating, Abby and John began arranging to get married.
That paragraph above taught me a great life lesson. Always give things a second chance. If you turn your nose up at something and never look at it again, you could be missing out on something important in your life. What if Abigail and John decided never to give each other another chance? We’d probably never know about Abigail, and benefit from all that she’s done in her life. Not only would we miss out on her lessons, we’d miss out on a great leader, John Quincy Adams, who was John and Abigail’s son. So remember, always give things a second chance.
October 24, 1764 was a great day for John and Abby. Why? It was their wedding day! After the ceremony, the couple went home and got settled. Suddenly, only three months after their marriage, John went to Boston to attend the January session of the Superior Court leaving his pregnant wife home alone to take care of the household. It wasn’t a short trip John was going on either, we’re talking months he was away from her. Obviously, Abby became lonely. As if to stop the loneliness, Abby had her first child, whom she and the family called Nabby, on July 14, 1765. Her real name was actually Abigail after he mother. And oh what a proud day it was for Abigail Adams! Just two short years later, Abigail had another one of those proud moments when her second child, John Quincy Adams was born on July 11, 1765. She named him that after his grandfather who sadly died just two days later. As if two kids wasn’t enough, Abby had three more! One of them was Susanna. The poor baby was very sick and for some odd reason couldn’t gain any weight. Like most mothers would be, Abby was distressed about the baby’s condition and did her best to take care of her. Eventually Susanna got better and lived a great life. Her other two children were Charles and Thomas.
Many more times John reluctantly left Abby alone to take care of the house and the kids. One of those times was September of 1783 when Abigail’s father passed away leaving her devastated. With no shoulder to cry on, Abigail grieved again, by herself. Although she was going through a tough time in her life, Abigail kept her held held high and her spirits up. That’s the kind of person she was: brave and pleasant!
Later on in 1791, Abby reached another sad time in her life. This time though, it wasn’t over death; it was over an illness she developed called malarial fever. It was so serious that she was incapable of walking on her own. Braintree, a small town, was where Abigail spent her summer quietly recovering from her illness. After coming over the sickness, though, it came back almost instantly. When it came back, she was bed ridden for six weeks. Serious pain Abby was in with a very high fever and sensitive eyes. In fact, her eyes were so sensitive that she was not able to read, write, or even sew to pass the time away. It was a long, boring six weeks for her! Finally, after all the pain, Abigail recovered.
The next year, typhoid fever is what she developed. By the time she got that fever, she was nearing her seventy-fourth birthday, so she was pretty old. Abby knew the disease was fateful. Still, she fought bravely her illness, and took on being the leader of the household, directing it from her bed.
On a still beautiful night, in a serene room, with John by her side, Abigail knew she was nearing the end. After saying a few loving and comforting words to her husband, she fell asleep, never to wake up again on. The date of October 28, 1818 will never be forgotten in John’s heart, and although he was in grief by his loss, he knew it was for the better and was happy that he and Abigail were able to share fifty-four long years together.
Abigail Adams has taught me so much. When I learned about her, I noticed that she was a great daughter, a great wife, and a great mother. Even though she was always left alone, got sick all the time, went through losses in her family, and watched her child suffering and was unable to help, Abigail still was the best person she could be. She wasn’t perfect though. No one can be perfect! The best is impossible to be, but doing your best is always in reach. Thanks, Abigail, for teaching me that!
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